Responses

This post was bound to happen.

I have had so many responses to say to people since everything happened with Brielle.

I understand that when there is silence, people want to talk to fill the void. I get it. Instead of just letting silence be okay, the person feels an overwhelming need to talk. So, this typically means the person just has to say something, instead of waiting for the opportunity to say something meaningful.

Here are some of the idiotic things people have said over the past {almost} 7 months since Brielle became an angel.

Person:

"At least you have M!"

"You're young! You'll have more kids."

"Everything happens for a reason."

Here is the response I have wanted to say:

And what I've actually done:

because I'm in sheer horror of the crap that comes out of peoples mouths.

Person:

Not even two months after losing Brielle: "Do you want more kids? Are you allowed to have more?"

My response:

because, I'm sorry, I wasn't aware I needed permission to HAVE A CHILD.

Person:

"You should get some rest. You look tired and sad. You don't look like you're taking care of yourself."

My response:

Okay, maybe it was only in my head that I hit them with an oversized {probably Chanel} bag. But still. The thought was there, and it's the thought that counts.

When people started coming forward and saying, "I know a friend of a friend who this happened to. But they're okay now. They had xyz kids since then."

My response:

Because, although I'm happy people were able to continue procreating, I'm not at that point yet.

When one of my former best friends said to me shortly after I had Brielle:

"You're not the only one with things going on in life."

My response was:

and this...

And this..

No, really. We had a somewhat polite verbal exchange. It ended with me hanging up on her via text. (does that even make sense? because it does to me)

And for the people that think it's okay to give me advice on how to deal with grief and on how long I should be grieving:

And because I love Fat Amy, and you can't go wrong with anything related to Pitch Perfect...